Have you ever thought or wondered what do guys think after you sleep with them? I know a couple of times you may have sat back to think about this especially if you noticed some kind of change in your man’s reaction after spending some time with him.
Well, I have brothers and a couple of male friends and we have talked about this severally. We got talking about this subject and I asked why do guys change after you sleep with them? What are those thoughts that go on in their head when you get a girl laid?
I got some shocking responses which I will be sharing. Note that it’s from a male’s point of view which I think is absolutely the best in this kind of situation.
So, What Do Guys Think After You Sleep With Them?
Please note that different scenarios are responsible for what a guy thinks after making love, therefore sometimes you can’t conclude or know exactly what’s going through his mind at a particular time as several factors could be responsible for what he’s thinking or what he will think after being with you.
First things first, the feeling of excitement, I mean that’s all that will occupy his mind because there’s been a kind of rush in his hormones and all he just feels is excitement.
Men are not like ladies who begin to fuss about how the guy saw her or what she did or didn’t do.
For the guy, you may not have been too cool in bed but for the fact that he could get satisfaction, there’s this excitement that comes with it, and then somehow they may just want to check if you felt good and liked it.
- He will want to know if he was able to satisfy you or create an impression with you because this will determine a general kind of feeling good for him so he knows what to do better next time. Not all men think this way anyway, but if he does this then it means he’s thinking of you.
- Another thing is he could be asking or thinking to himself, were you satisfied? And if he gets a yes or he senses a yes then it would kind of triple or increase his excitement level.
It will also boost his level of confidence and will make him feel like he’s still got his mojo. What do guys think after you sleep with them? Let’s probe further.
For some other guys, they may want to find out if you had any experience that is as good as what you had with him.
There is this secret competition( permit me to use that word) to want to have the best experience ever with you. And so sometimes they may be thinking, did I hit the right notes with her or what did I do or not do?
Other Things Guys May Be Thinking After You Sleep With Them
Truth is, whenever men are in the act, they can say anything, and honestly whatever they say is true they mean it.
Even in the heat of passion, they say what comes to mind, they say exactly how they feel, but afterward, they are tired and as the hormones begin to settle in, they get back into reality and some thoughts begin to come up.
Thoughts like I hope I’m not going to be a father soon especially if no protection was used. He will begin to think if you are on any pills and this stuff will come after the excitement has died out.
He’s back from cloud 9 and is settling into reality, what comes to mind first is to clean up because he’ll be all sticky and sweaty.
So ladies, most times when he rushes out of bed don’t bother about it too much, he may just want to clean himself up. This isn’t the time to be wondering if you are in a relationship. He could be thinking of wanting to see you again.
Another point on what do guys think after you sleep with them? In some other cases, he may be thinking how did we get here?
He may be thinking, I may have to let my friends in on this and just give them the juicy details. Not all men do this but some do especially after having a first night or first time with a lady they’re excited and they want to talk about it and he could be thinking should I or should I not tell?
Why Do Guys Change After You Sleep With Them?
- He could be thinking after now, what next? do I call her? if I don’t want her, how do I stay away? He may be confused or struggling with some uncertainties which is why he may not even reach out to you.
- You may not like what you are going to read next but I’m going to have to write it anyways. He may be regretting his action.
If you’re in an intimate relationship, he may not bother but if this is the first time and he’s got his lady somewhere, he may just think of his real lady and say what if I get caught by my partner? This could make him regret the situation.
On the other hand, if it’s a one-night stand, he may say to himself, I don’t ever want to see this person again.
Do Guys Lose Interest After They Sleep With You?
You have felt it before. I have experienced it and I know what it feels like to have known a guy who was attached to you, giving you the attention and saying everything you wanted to hear and then spending time with you also giving you some good vibes, getting your hopes up and then somewhere you just discover that after giving in to him he just walks away and you seem like he has changed all of a sudden. Can we go deep?
Let’s look at it from the male mind and why they walk away. One general reason why some men lose interest is due to their hormones. You can blame it on his testosterone. This is responsible for a couple of things like their aggression and drive.
Men naturally pull away for some reason. Let me give an example. Several times what happens is this, you are there and a man walks around you doing his thing, gets close to you, he’s fascinated by you.
At this point, he can do anything for you and once he’s able to get down with you, sometimes the fascination dies.
Once this happens, he goes out and tries to seek satisfaction by hanging out with friends and doing his own thing, trying to hang around other guys and seek their approval for his self-esteem like thinking what do they feel, what will the lady think about me?
And so sometimes he just pulls away because that’s what he should do, he wants his mind to be free. it happens naturally. So, when he retreats, sometimes he may come back and at this point, you freak out and begin to think he’s gone, meanwhile, it’s just a miscommunication, he needed some time to think things over with himself. Men don’t know what women want and women don’t know why men are doing the things they do.
We are talking about normal men, not narcissists or guys who just want to hit you and run. There are some guys out there who have low self-esteem and sometimes in trying to build their satisfaction and see where they stand they try to see if they can attract and then hook up with you but we are not talking about those guys
Thinking about what do guys think after you sleep with them? You may just say a guy will not lose interest, some may say it depends on if there was interest or not.
Women become bonded with intimacy, It bonds us to our partners but it’s not the case with men. It does not have the power to bond a man to a woman but it has the power to solidify a bond that’s already there.
So, to answer your question, if there was any interest before you got intimate, then it could make you bond.
It could make you stronger together but if the interest was never there in the first place, you cannot create it by getting in between the sheets.
You cannot create interest, you can’t make a guy stay with you by going down with him. So many women have done this hoping that a guy will stay hooked to them.
This isn’t the right way to think. Work on being friends and jet the interest rise before you sleep together. How long will that take? Many of you say it varies, it could take some time but it’s not magical, whatever it takes, feel comfortable getting used to your man, allow some time, give the relationship time to blossom, get connected and so then you can now do it.
So, do guys lose interest after sleeping with you? if there’s any interest, in the first place sleeping with him can bind you to a man but does not have the power to bond a man.
If you’re in a situation whereby your man is another lady’s man and maybe you just made love and then you are thinking if he’s going to come back or not going to come back or what he’s thinking, you’re not really in a good position because I don’t support being with a sisters man, you should be your sister’s keeper you know. You’re just hoping he’s going to see the other side of you, it may happen or may not happen.
What Do Guys Think After You Sleep With Them?
Sometimes you realize your guy has lost interest in you. Why do you think that happened? You were serious about him and somehow he just walked away what could be the reason why men lose interest?
1. It’s Possible You Do Not Interest Him Anymore
He could have been fascinated with you initially and somehow lost it.
2. For Some, It Could Be They Just Wanted To Sleep With You
And after getting it they just lose interest. Perhaps, you don’t interest them anymore and they want to look for new love elsewhere.
Don’t blame yourself when this happens to you, do not change yourself. Be who you are, if he does not find you interesting then he cannot see how wonderful you are inside.
3. Also, When A Woman Quickly Falls In Love And The Guy Does Not Have To Struggle And It’s Easy For Him
Some men believe that for him to have gotten you quickly another guy would have gotten you in the same manner.
He will begin to look at you as being cheap and the next thing he will think is it’s better he just walks away instead of him thinking or coming to the conclusion that some other guy may have gotten you this quickly.
Some guys stay longer in a relationship when you don’t fall cheap for them and they believe it will be hard for another guy to get you.
They will always remember what they went through before getting you and they will win your trust, so don’t fall too quickly even if you love the guy.
4. He May Have Found Someone Else. Most Guys Are Moved By What They See
More Reasons Why Guys Lose Interest After They Sleep With You
5. You Demand So Much From Him
You are dependent on him, the guy likes you and just wants to have you and you will then take it as an opportunity to demand so much from him.
When you demand so much at the early stage of a relationship, for most men, they will sleep with you and go, they don’t want to lose anything so in exchange for whatever they give you, they sleep with you and then walk away.
6.  He Was Never Serious In The Relationship
They make you feel they love you but the truth is he was never serious, he was just after your body, he got close to you and somehow won your trust and allowed you to get intimate with him.
7. It’s Possible He Left Because He Was Confused About His Feelings Which Is Why He Never Got Back To You After That Day
Some men think they’re in love with you and then when it gets to a certain level they begin to think, what am I thinking? what happened? These are some of the reasons why some guys just back off.
How To Act After You Sleep With Him?
You finally got in between the sheets with him, so what next?
There’s this saying I’ve heard a couple of times and would like us to look into it, it will save you a lot of time and energy. It says, “men get lost(lust) in the bedroom and fall in love in the morning.
This means that when you’re with a guy and you’re hooking up, enjoy the moment, show him what you got, it doesn’t matter if you’re good or not but as long as he satisfies you that’s just the basics, this will make him feel good about himself.
So you slept with him and then you discovered he is beginning to pull away but you’re beginning to feel attached after sleeping with him.
What do you do to keep his interest and get the love and attraction that you’ve gotten initially?
Don’t blame yourself because it’s how we are designed. It is biological that when a woman sleeps with the guy she releases some oxytocin, a love hormone, and it happens also when you give birth to a baby this hormone is secreted.
This is why mothers bond with their babies. Men release a little bit of it when sleeping with a lady but not as much as a woman does which is why he will mean everything he says when he’s in bed with you and after he gets himself he begins to think clearly but sometimes differently.
How To Act After You Sleep With Him
The first point worthy of note is do not sleep with a guy too soon because you will not be able to handle the emotions that come with it.
Delay it until the time the guy is fully invested in you. Why will you give away something that is a big deal to someone who is not invested in you and may not appreciate it?
So, how do you behave with a guy after making out?
1. Do Not Tell Him That Sleeping With Him Is A Big Deal For You
Don’t make it look as if it’s a big deal, if you do, you will freak him out or he may try to convince you otherwise by saying everyone is doing it and It shouldn’t be a big deal. Just take it slowly ladies, once you sleep with him, treat him like it’s not a big deal.
2. Do Not Be Needy, Do Not Presume You Have Him Already
Do not be the one starting to chase him, pursue or show him all your love and emotions else you will turn him off and he will start to lose interest.
Now you may be asking, why do we need to hold on. Remember it’s a man’s world with ladies in it. You need to adjust to it and not lose yourself as a woman or fall for that equality context which is used wrongly and not correctly like we are equal.
If a man can do this, I can do the same. We are not the same, we are not wired the same biologically, we were designed to complement each other not to be the same and copy one another.
3. Endeavor To Play Hard-To-Get With A Man
After sleeping with him, he may start to play little games on you to provoke you to lose it.
10 Things To Do After You Slept With A Guy Too Soon?
1. Relax, It’s Not About Sleeping With Him But How You Act After You Sleep With Him.
2. Don’t Begin To Assume You’re In A Serious Relationship.
Don’t begin to think you’re there yet, sleeping with him is not equal to being in a relationship. Never assume he’s going to be with you all through, he’s going to take you to his parents or he’s going to come after you. Men get into relationships when they want to, you don’t need to force them into it.
I’ve heard some guys say that when they sleep with a lady, they lose interest and act like they don’t care but they discovered that it drives ladies crazy and make them begin to chase them afterward. This brings me to the next point.
3. You Have Options Here
It’s difficult to act high-value and not react to a man’s manipulative games. You chase the guy because it’s easier to do so and then he begins to treat you as a doormat, the end is pathetic.
You have the right to choose which suits you best Trust the logic and not your heart it doesn’t matter how much a guy has or how handsome he is, if he doesn’t pursue you then he’s a loser. If you want him to respect you, put yourself together and let him try his best with you
4. Ever Noticed That It’s Kind Of Difficult For You To Hear A Man Say When Should I Commit To A Lady?
This is because women have to advocate for their own needs and deny premature sensual urges that will put them at a disadvantage in the long run. Learn to play safe, learn to play the games by your rules..yes you slept with him too soon but still be in charge.
5. The Next Thing You Can Do Is Leave
When I say leave, just find the front door as quickly as possible after the act. Let him know you have other things to do and then leave. Why? so that you don’t get your mind into wanting to chase him.
He’s gotten what he wanted(let’s assume) and you need to start the chasing process again, so instead of you staying back, just leave and let’s see if he chases you.
6. When You Walk Away, Leave Him Without Telling Him Where You’re Going And What You’re Doing.
7. Don’t Text Or Call Him, Let The Process Begin All Over Again.
Let him wonder what you are up to and then entice him to begin to chase you all over again.
On the other hand, if you sleep with a guy in the first days, don’t be ashamed to send him a text a few days later and let him know you had some fun being with him just keep it short and then ghost on him. You could try any of the two options you are most comfortable with.
I’ve heard some ladies say if you want to chase him, you can pretend to forget something at his place and then go back for it later but my thought on that differs, what if you didn’t get to hang out or hook up in his place, how do you go about that? Besides, coming back will make some guys know you came back intentionally.
8. Act Like You Don’t Like The Guy Even When You Like Him.
9. Go On With Your Life And Make It Obvious That You Are Interested In Yourself First.
10. Avoid Sleeping With Him When You See Him Next Time
You could insist on hanging out at a restaurant or going to see a movie. Make sure you are in the open to avoid the temptation of sleeping with him again.
How To Play Hard To Get With A Guy You’ve Already Slept With?
A woman’s value goes down if she doesn’t value her own time. It’s more like absence makes the heart grow fonder.
You will always have a higher value if you place a tag on your time and not always be at a man’s beck and call. The problem with women playing hard to get is making it look too obvious that you’re playing hard-to-get
1. Try And Mask Your Attraction To The Guy With An Air Of Indifference
One second, you show a lot of attraction, you do things that get him interested and blow hot and cold.
This confuses him, so the key is to know how to be comfortable in going to the extreme on both ends in terms of showing your attraction and then backing off.
2. Reward His Good Behavior By Being Good And Punish Bad Behavior By Avoiding Him
Do it innocently like you don’t know what you are doing. For example, he takes you out for dinner, be nice, treats him well, if he misbehaves, miss his calls, and call back later apologizing that u were busy. it’s a trick.
3. Giving Him Space Allows You To Play Hard-To-Get
Not only that, you will tend to be more attractive to him. Most guys won’t work out of their range but when you are making him more attracted towards you, when he’s not around you, the only way for him to think about you is to imagine you and fantasize about you. So, the more space you give him the more he’s going to start fantasizing about you.
Yes, you are playing hard to get but you are pursuing your life doing other things and putting yourself off from trying to chase him. You are not going to be quick to respond to his text, you’re not going to look desperate because you’re putting yourself first and you’re busy with your dreams and your ambitions.
It doesn’t mean you are arrogant, it just means that you are being highly valued and trying to get the right balance.
4. Next Is To Keep Your Options Open While You’re Playing Hard-To-Get
There’s no need to just stay put, enjoy relationships with other guys, go out on dates but he doesn’t need to know you’re keeping your options open. Don’t throw it in his face that other guys are pursuing you.
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