Loving someone with all you’ve got and not wanting anything in return is the ultimate love. A relationship is progressive and successful when the two individuals involved are willing to make it work. The truth is you are here because you want to know when a guy is no longer interested in you. I believe if you already knew, you wouldn’t be here if you aren’t feeling it already.
You are feeling like he’s pretending to just like you. He’s suddenly acting strange, giving you cold shoulders, you just feel like he’s not interested anymore, he is avoiding you and even though your gut is telling you to check it, you just want to be sure he’s still interested because you know for a fact that this guy is into you, so it’s really hard for him to suddenly start acting odd and distant with you.
I know how it feels right now you are wondering what changed. Does he still like you?. The mere feeling and thoughts of someone who you love, to suddenly start showing ‘not interested’ can be killing and terribly heartbreaking.
So many questions like, what happened? Did you do something wrong? Are they dealing with something they don’t want to share? Have they lost total interest in you? Should you call or text to know what’s happening? It’s sad and awful.
The most painful thing about this feeling is that the person doesn’t know how much it hurts when they ignore you. They have no idea how worthless they make you feel, how sad, how disturbing, the sleepless nights and mid-day memory flash you have thinking about what could have possibly gone wrong.
It’s really a dark place to be in. I remember how distraught I felt when my boyfriend at one time started to act off. No communication, he wouldn’t even return my calls or text back, he leaves me on read. It was devastating and heartbreaking, not being able to talk to the love of my life. I felt avoided.
I was left with so many questions because there isn’t anything to hold onto to say oh yes, this is the problem. We were cool, he taught me about the importance of honesty, we were totally transparent and truthful with each other.
We supported each other with what we had to offer. It was blissful, fun, great, and healthy. Till it all got messed up when I started feeling like he was avoiding me.
And it was an all of a sudden switch, I felt terrible because I couldn’t actually talk to this person to know what the problem was.
My instinct was surely telling me something was off but I thought to myself whatever it was we always talk about stuff and get past it. Well, it lingered, And the rest they say is history.
You are probably hurting so bad because you could have maybe accepted his rejection, but the painful thing is that he didn’t even care to give you an explanation and that’s exactly how I felt. One thing you should know is that when you love someone you are bound to get hurt ok, this is why I’m here to help you clear your doubts and probably align with your guts.
In this article, I will give you the shortest and common signs a guy isn’t interested in you anymore, signs he’s really not into you, signs he wants to break up. To let you know what and how he feels about you, so you can move on.
1. What Are Your Instincts Really Telling You?
The truth is your Instincts most times if not all the time is right. Your Instincts know you and who you are supposedly in a relationship with. So if your gut is telling you that he’s not interested in you, it’s probably right. But in order not to be confused, it’s best to clear your head and your mind.
Do not think too much so that your Instincts can’t fully give you the answer you need. calm down and ask yourself when you do you are sure to get an answer, it’s either fear or hope alive. just be truthful with yourself, pay attention to your instincts it’s most of the time right.
2. Has He Stopped Calling And Texting You?
If the answer to this is yes, then you have it when a guy wants you, when a guy is interested in you, he will always want to talk to you he will seize any opportunity to know how you are doing whether text or call. He will always desire to hear your voice. This is because when a guy really likes a girl, the priority is always to hear her voice.
He literally craves for it. Unless he’s dealing with personal stuff maybe from work-family then he might decide not to communicate. That’s how my friend Katie’s man acted one time and Katie felt he wanted to break up. But he finally came around and explained what was happening and the reasons why he wanted to just be alone and not talk to anyone.
This right here is very understandable I feel that too sometimes when I’m on my period. As a woman you know that comes with a lot of annoying mood swings and one of them for me is shutting out and not talking to anyone. I’m sure as a woman you understand this.
So, asides from this if he isn’t going through any major life crisis or situation and he’s stopped calling and texting that’s a very bad and short sign your man is no longer interested and doesn’t know how to let you know.
3. You Noticed A Change In His Body Language
One of the surest ways to determine if a guy likes you is through his body language. He might not be open to tell you he likes you, but you will know with his body language towards you he will always lean towards you for support, advice, and intimacy, and so on.
You are the first person he wants to run and rant to whenever he’s having a bad day. He was always comfortable laying on you, sitting close to you touching your fingers let’s just say he feels comfortable being around you. And suddenly you are noticing a withdrawal, he starts avoiding sitting close to you.
He isn’t sharing his struggles with you like he used to before. Then that means his feelings aren’t in place with you.
4. Is He Avoiding Going Out With You?
When a guy likes you, he takes you out on a date, he loves to spend time with you, he will always invite you over just to have an alone time with you. This is like one of the surest signs a guy really likes you. He just wants to be around you. It means he wants to know you more and also this helps increase the love and passion between the both of you.
If he constantly starts giving excuses, rain checks, and not trying to hang out with you, there you have it. If a guy doesn’t want to spend time with you anymore, this is an indicator he’s lost interest and he doesn’t just want to see you.
5. He Doesn’t Listen To You Like He Used To
For this point, I’ve talked with a good number of guys, and yes I can tell you that some guys can be really forgetful this doesn’t mean he doesn’t love, want, or be interested in you. But he’s just forgetful, that got nothing to do with you. Just the way he is.
So before you conclude with this point examine and weigh if this is how he has always been or he just started acting this way. Reverse you can now say yes something is wrong or no he has always been like this. But it’s important you know that when a guy likes you, you are automatically an important part of his life, He wouldn’t want to just lose, therefore even if he’s forgetful and all whatnot.
He will listen to you when you talk to him and not totally always forget when you tell him things, especially the important things. So if it is completely not paying attention to you that’s a big red sign he’s not interested in you like before.
6. Does He Rain Check On You More Than The Usual?
A guy is always out to impress, he cares a lot about how you perceive him. A guy who likes you avoids whatever that makes you upset or not like him anymore. He will try hard not to flake on you unless it’s an emergency or personal reasons.
Asides from that, If he rain checks on you more than the usual without a tangible reason for the disappointment then he’s avoiding you. That is a sign he’s not interested in you. As a woman, you give excuses to a man you don’t want to go out with no more. So if he’s always flaking on you he doesn’t like you and he’s not interested.
7. You Are Always The First To Call And Text
It is said that the initial stage of dating is usually the sweetest because the guy will always be the one calling and texting and you feel so special and wanted. This shows he’s really interested in you. But when reverse is the case, and you find yourself being the only one calling and texting him first ; when you don’t then he wouldn’t call. That’s a sign. Think and compare his attitude.
For example, he may be the type who calls in the morning and most definitely at night to say goodnight but suddenly there is a drop, he’s no longer calling at night even the mornings are mid-afternoons. You are now the one always calling. Even the morning calls stop because you are now the person doing most of it.
If that’s what’s happening, then something is wrong. His mind got something else it’s giving attention to. It’s a sign he’s not just interested in talking to you no more. This is one of the surest signs for me that a guy isn’t interested anymore, because I believe that when you love someone, when you are in a relationship with someone he will always desire to call or text them even if it’s for no just reason but for the fun and spice of it.
If he isn’t calling and texting like he used to he is not interested anymore.
8. Does He Still Flirt With You?
I regard flirting between couples as a spice and one of the fun stuff that keeps the relationship especially turning boring. If your boyfriend is always flirting with you then you are in luck it shows he really still finds you attractive, special, and totally interested in you. Of Course, you might say some or all guys flirt a lot and it’s not anything concrete for them.
If your partner is someone who doesn’t just flirt but he flirts with you then he’s not doing that anymore then there’s a problem.
9. How Is His Jealousy Level?
If he doesn’t get edgy, cranky, and jealous even when you mention you are going out with some other guy that’s a sign there. A guy is naturally jealous of the idea that his woman is out with another man not like you won’t go out with guys but he doesn’t just like it because he loves you, he feels and wants him to be the only one you can go out with even though he knows it’s not possible.
It’s called healthy jealousy. If he doesn’t act that way, if he doesn’t show any trait or sign of jealousy when you mention that you are going out with a guy. It means he doesn’t care and he’s not interested in you; it actually says a lot about the future of the relationship.
10. He Flirts With Other Women While You Are There
A guy who likes you wouldn’t want to be talking to you about other women he likes, or seeking for your opinion and all whatnot. He wouldn’t want to upset you like that. Although some do that in front of women they like just to make them jealous. but if he’s openly flirting in front of you with other women. That’s a sign he’s not interested, he doesn’t just like you.
For you!
I hope this piece helped unclog your clouded and disturbed mind. Although I always advise don’t force it, don’t be bent on knowing the real reasons if they are not so open to tell you what the problem is. The worst thing you can ever do to a man is making him feel like he can’t have his space, a man doesn’t want to feel like he’s being choked by your presence. If you do that he feels irritated and it makes you appear desperate. Give him the time he needs when he’s ready to talk. He will talk to you. Allow him to express what the problem is so that both of you can move on or know better when such a situation arises again. So both of you can have peace of mind.
Good luck!
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