Making a relationship work requires a lot of effort. It is not the responsibility of one. A relationship tends to break when one decides not to do what they did at the beginning, they end up leaving the work for their partner. Thereby taking their partner for granted. It is a relationship; it is two persons coming together to make something beautiful work.
Putting in that extra effort can not be necessarily seen as strenuous if both of you work towards the success of your relationship.
Ivan had this issue of keeping his relationship with his girlfriend. They have been together for three years. 5 months into the 3rd year. Ivan started feeling alone in the relationship, he puts in more and gets zero percent back. He really could not place a finger to what the problem might be, because anytime he brings it up, she brushes it away like it ain’t a problem.
For example, Ivan said his girlfriend doesn’t give him the attention anymore. She’s always busy with their relationship. It got to a point where they can’t sit and talk about stuff without it ending in an argument, and when the argument happens, they stay not talking to each other for weeks till Ivan comes up to apologize whether he was wrong or not.
And this has been going on for months till Ivan Finally broke up.
Your relationship doesn’t need to go through this stress. I know it can be hard sometimes because there are times when you just feel like being left alone or times when it feels boring. This is not the time to give up on your relationship but a time to add more spice to it.
All you have to do is talk with your partner or better still initiate some of the tips I’ll be listing to get the spark back. Trust Me! It works. Getting the love back is easy unless the case where your partner is not interested in continuing the relationship with you. Here are 12 Tips To Keep Your Relationship Going:
1. Resolve Arguments
Arguments are bound to happen in a Relationship. It’s not something to shy away.in fact, it’s a sign of a healthy relationship. In order to keep the fire burning in your relationship, it is wise to make sure to resolve an argument as soon as possible. it is advised not to let the day pass on a misunderstanding.
This is because the longer you both take to resolve and settle; the more resentment grows between you two. So to be happy and maintain an unbreakable steady relationship. Kiss and Make up you will notice that you will grow closer to each other than before.
2. Remember The Three Powerful Words
Saying your ‘i love you” can never be overemphasized. if you feel like it’s too cliche. Try substituting with words that would carry your love like ‘you are amazing’.
Say these words because you mean it and not just for the fun of it.
3. Do Not Take Your Partner For Granted
This is probably the reason most relationships spark and burn ends. Some people just stop trying because they feel they know their partner too well. Do you want to know something? Just because you know he or she loves and cares about you is not enough to overlook them and take them for granted.
You suddenly start acting in irrational ways believing him or her will be there no matter what. Your actions alone hurt more. So to avoid this, make it a habit to constantly remind them of how beautiful and special they are. Complement them. Allow them to say things they want to say to you without fear.
4. Humor
Be with someone who matches your level of humor energy .it’s not a military ground.Date someone you can laugh out loud with and be yourself. A little laughter here and there create some sort of bonding, laugh together, tease your partner, watch comedy videos, remember an embarrassing moment and laugh it off.
5. Communication
Communication is the crux of every relationship. Being able to communicate with your partner about stuff is a great way to show and tell them you trust them and they can trust you. Have no shame in opening up to them about how your day went, share funny stories, tell them about your passions and fears. This helps to build stronger bonds and intimacy.
6. Speak Each Other’s Love Language
There are 5 love languages. It is important to know your partner’s love language to be able to communicate and understand each other better. For Example, your partner’s love language might be Acts of service and yours’ Quality Time. Both of you should work towards complimenting your different love languages to create a balance in your relationship.
7. Always Keep In Touch
Keeping in touch with your boyfriend or girlfriend especially during the day through text is a great way to keep the love alive in your relationship, knowing how to touch your partner’s heart with words.Sending a text during the day lets them know you are thinking about them in turn it leaves him or her smiling throughout the day.
It automatically changes their day especially if they are having a bad day. So to maintain the love and further keep your relationship. learn the habit of texting your partner or a spontaneous gesture. Just do something that will always keep both of you in contact.
8. Pay Attention To The Small Stuff
I know how it feels when my boyfriend makes reference to something I casually said, in some cases, I might forget and when he suddenly talks about it or reminds me. It gives me this loving feeling of assurance that he cares about me even to the little details.
So yea! Learn to pay attention to the little details your partner talks about. It goes a long way.
9. Respect Each Other’s Boundaries
Know the limit, know how far you can go with him or her. Respect when they don’t feel like talking and so on.
10. Be Spontaneous
Don’t be Regular. Surprise them with loving acts that will leave them really surprised.
Bonus Tip:
Remember to always listen to your partner.
Never forget what attracted you to them in the first place.
Compliment each other.
Be Appreciative: show them how grateful you, no matter how little.
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